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My husband and I live at the School of Metaphysics World Headquarters located on the College of Metaphysics campus. I was six months pregnant with our second child when one of the college students asked me an interesting question. She wondered if I was worried that our first daughter, then two, would revert in the progress she was making in potty training when her sibling was born. I had given considerable thought to how a younger sibling would affect Alexandra’s life, however, I had never considered the experience as something that would set her back mentally, emotionally or physically. I answered the student saying, “Well, I never thought of it like that. I suppose if she does we’ll work with her.” The young woman continued in her train of thought saying that it was very common for siblings to revert to more “childish” behavior when a new baby is born by throwing tantrums, not wanting to use a potty, wishing the new baby was gone etc... She said she was surprised I had not done any reading about it in preparation for our next baby.
I believe all children are individual and my approach to motherhood continues, to the best of my ability, to be centered and responsive to the soul in front of me. In the two years since Alexandra was born, I was well aware of my strengths and weaknesses in mothering. I figured everyone would be adjusting to another baby and I would take it a day at a time, doing my best to reason, respond and encourage when needed. If potty training took a detour then we would handle it. I had noticed that there were ebbs and flows in this particular process anyway without a sibling in the house.
The initial question did stimulate me, however, to think that perhaps there was more I could or should be doing for Alexandra. Instead of heading to the nearest bookstore, my husband and I decided to request an Intuitive Health Analysis for her the month before the baby was due. Following is one of the questions we asked and the response
Are there any suggestions for this one of Alexandra and also for the parents in preparation for a new child to be born into this family?
The one of Alexandra is very familiar with this entity. There are many bonds that they have and there is previous experience. Therefore we see that there is the awareness of that one and the anticipation of interaction which is very strong. Therefore the ones around this one, particularly the parents, need merely be focused and loving and still in observing the interaction that will occur between these ones and observing interactions that are already occurring. This is one form that the telepathy takes in the present time period. 10-17-2006-BGC-03
I found this answer to be quite humbling. Far from any imagined ideas of difficulty, jealousy or imposition, this report was telling us that these two souls were already communicating! What a wonderful proper perspective moment for us as parents. The moment I heard that answer any doubt or worry about the new baby affecting Alexandra adversely was eradicated. I was curious now to see how their divine friendship would unfold. I was also more respectful of the times when Alexandra was seemingly talking to herself giving her space to give and receive freely. When Vivienna was born Alexandra seemed quite content with this new being in the environment.
Interestingly, it was because Alexandra seemed to adjust so well that I decided to ask about it on her next Health Analysis. This report was given six months after the baby was born.
Recently this one had a young sibling, a sister born into this family, and so this one has a sister now that is about three years younger than this one. What is the effect on this one of the younger sibling coming into the family and into the environment?
There hasn’t been a great deal of change in this one’s thinking and world. The biggest change has been in the others around this around this and therefore how they have changed toward this one. We see that much of those one’s in this environment have not changed in regards to their interaction with this one. We see that the primary change has been upon the part of the mother and to a lesser degree the father in regards to this one. And we see that this one is only now beginning to pay attention to this. We see therefore the changes that have occurred, that this one has not really noted, have been more in giving emotional space which has given this one the opportunity to develop inner security. This then calls back the point of origin of the difficulty that this one is sometimes having with Self expression. This one does not know how to respond to the space. 05-16-2007-BGC-01
My life had certainly changed since Vivienna was born! I appreciated the accuracy and objectivity in this answer. It helped me see things from Alexandra’s perspective. It was true, she had stability around her in the people who were living at the College of Metaphysics. They had welcomed Vivienna into their lives but their daily life was relatively unaffected regarding a new baby.
I was the one facing most of the challenges in adjusting. Vivienna was a demanding infant, not sleeping well for the first few months and her impatience was a constant reflection of my own impatience. My beliefs in my own capacity to learn, respond and understand were certainly being tested. Many times I felt torn between Alexandra and Vivienna. I missed my individual interaction with Alexandra and she was more interested in spending time with her dad during this time. None of this was a setback, it was merely a new stimulus for all of us. It was intriguing to me that Alexandra’s need was to respond to the space that a new sibling had afforded her. I did not need to figure out how to spend more time with her, I needed to aid her to comfortable with the newfound time she had with herself. I had to update my idea that my availability to her provided security. The truth, no matter what age, is that being comfortable with your Self affords inner security.
Both Alexandra and Vivienna are maturing and we are faced with new stages of development all the time. I have referred often to these intuitive reports as a source of comfort in remembering they are soul friends and as a source of honesty so that I am clear in Alexandra’s real needs. My husband and I request an Intuitive Health Analysis for each of our daughters every six months. We use the reports as a resource for teaching and learning in the present. We view them as documentation of the girls’ evolution of consciousness that will be available to them for future reference when they want deeper understanding of themselves and their lives.
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